Dating as a Call Girl In Bangalore: How to Find Someone | OYONights

Hi, I am a call girl. I work in Bangalore. I want to date someone. But it is really hard. When people know my job, they look at me different. Some get scared. Some get too interested in a bad way. I wrote this article to help other girls like me. I am not a writer, but I will try my best. This is my story and some advice. I hope it helps you.

Why Dating Is So Hard for Girls Like Me
Dating is hard for everyone. My friend who works in an office also says finding a good boy is difficult. But for a call girl, it is ten times harder. Why? Because people judge you. They think you are a bad person. They think you cannot be a good girlfriend or wife. That is not true. We have feelings too. We want love too.

Some boys only want us for sex. They think because we do this work, we will do anything for free. That is not fair. My job is a job. I get paid for my time. That does not mean I am not a real person. When I date, I want someone to like me for me. Not just for my body.

Also, safety is a big worry. I cannot just meet any boy anywhere. I have to be very careful. Because some people are not nice. They might hurt me or try to blackmail me. So I have to think about safety all the time. It is tiring.

Safety First: Things I Always Do Before a Date
If you are a call girl and want to date, please be careful. Here are some rules I follow. They are simple but very important.

Meet in Public Places
Never go to a boy's house on the first date. Never invite him to your home either. Meet at a busy place like a mall, a restaurant, or a park with many people. That way, if something feels wrong, you can just leave. I always choose a coffee shop near a main road. There are people everywhere. I feel safe there.

Tell a Friend Everything
Before I go on a date, I call my best friend. I tell her the name of the boy, where we are going, and what time I will come back. I also share my live location on WhatsApp. She knows if I don't message her by 9 pm, she should call me. If I don't answer, she will call the police. That sounds scary, but it's better to be safe.

Do Not Share Personal Information
I use a different name for dating. I don't tell the boy my real address, my real phone number, or where I work. I use a second phone or a chat app. If he asks too many personal questions on the first date, that is a red flag. A good person will understand that you need to trust him first.

Watch for Red Flags
Some boys show their true colors very fast. If a boy asks for free sex because of your job, run away. If he makes fun of you or calls you bad names, run away. If he tries to touch you without permission, run away. If he wants to take photos or videos without your okay, run away. Your safety is more important than being polite.

When Should I Tell Him About My Job?
This is the hardest question. Some girls say tell on the first date. Some say wait for months. I think it depends on the person. You do not have to tell him right away. Your job is private. You can wait until you feel safe and comfortable.

On the first date, I just talk about normal things like movies, food, and hobbies. I don't tell him I am a call girl. I watch how he talks about women. Does he respect women? Does he say bad things about girls who work in bars or massage parlors? If he is judgmental about other girls, he will be judgmental about me too. So I leave.

After a few dates, if I think he is a nice person, I think about telling him. I choose a quiet place, like a park bench or a car, and I say it simply. "I like you, so I want to be honest. I work as a call girl." Then I stop talking and wait. I do not apologize. I do not explain too much. It is my life. If he cannot accept it, that is his problem.

Some boys will leave. It hurts. But it is better to know early. Some boys will say okay but then ask for free services. Those boys are not good either. You want a boy who says, "Thank you for telling me. I still like you. Your job does not change who you are." That is the boy you keep.

What Kind of Partner Should You Look For?
I have learned from my mistakes. A good partner for a call girl should be different from other boys. Here are some signs:

He treats you like a normal person. He does not talk about your job all the time.

He respects your boundaries. If you say no, he stops. He does not get angry.

He does not try to "save" you. Some boys act like they are heroes and you need rescuing. That is annoying. You are not broken.

He keeps your secret. He never tells his friends or family about your job. He understands that privacy is important.

He does not ask for free time. He knows your job is work, not a hobby.

If you find a boy like that, hold on to him. But do not settle for less. It is better to be single than to be with someone who makes you feel bad.

How to Handle Rejection Without Feeling Bad
Not everyone will accept you. Some boys will say mean things. Some will block you. Some will act nice but then disappear. It is normal to feel sad. I cry sometimes. But then I remember: my job is not my whole identity. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend. I like cooking, watching movies, and going for walks. I am more than my work.

If a boy rejects you because of your job, it means he was not right for you. He has his own issues. Maybe he is scared or close-minded. That is not your fault. Do not change who you are for anyone.

I also talk to other girls who do the same work. We share stories and support each other. It helps a lot. If you do not have friends like that, you can find online groups. Just be careful about sharing personal details there too.

Taking Care of Your Heart and Mind
Dating can make you tired. You have to deal with judgment, fear, and disappointment. That is a lot. So take breaks when you need to. You do not have to date all the time. Focus on yourself. Do things that make you happy. Go to temple, watch a movie, eat biryani. Whatever makes you smile.

I also talk to a counselor sometimes. She does not judge me. She listens and gives good advice. If you can afford it, try therapy. It really helps to talk to someone who is not involved in your life.

Remember: your job is just a job. It does not make you dirty or less than anyone else. You deserve love, respect, and happiness. Never forget that.